This morning I shared a topic about "Finding fault in own self before pointing finger at others" during the morning assembly. I believe you can find many similar articles or quotes in the internet or books.
It tends to be a human nature to blame and to complain every time we faced problems or failures. Often you see people blamed anything and everything for their failure or mistakes. Typical example you can see the majority of politicians around the world and you will notice the blame game never ends.
So why do people behave as such? There are many reasons and the reasons that I could come up with, probably are the few as followed:-
1. People avoid responsibilities. No one likes to get into troubles, everyone prefers to keep their hands clean while hoping someone else will pick up the pile of shit. Often you will see these scenario in companies or politics where someone (scapegoat) will be used to take the blame/responsibility while the real culprits will get away with their hands clean.
2. The pride and dignity. Admitting to your mistakes is similar to telling people that you failed and you are weak. No one likes to be inferior to another especially in a competitive environment where every step counts.
3. Childish. Some people will point fingers at others as soon as they encounter mistake or failure. These people probably have not grown up and still used to the habit of saying "It's not my fault! I do not know!" and hopefully someone else will clean the mess for them, typically their parents. They usually have no sense of responsibility and their way of solving problems is just by saying the magic word "It's not my fault!" then their fairies (parents/elders) will appear and fix it for them.
4. Selfishness. Together in a team, but some people can just push all their responsibilities to their team mates. Human in general are very selfish, at least from my observation of the people around me. With some element of the first and second factor, selfishness also contributes to the blame game.
5. Sacrifice. Too much effort has been put into a task until the extend where failure is not acceptable. They are not willing to sacrifice all their hard work and effort that will disappear if they have to face the consequence of the mistakes that they made. Commonly you will see this scenario in politics and large co-operations where some people went through a long way before reaching their current position and any slight mistake will bring them back down to ground zero. They cannot afford any mistakes, otherwise everything will perish. And often these will lead to a larger mistake and at the end everything will become unrecoverable.
These factors are the main reasons that I could think of why someone will play the blame game. It takes a lot of courage to admit one's mistake and to learn from it. A famous story that is well known (while some people regarded it as a fake story) which talks about America's first president, George Washington, who chopped down his father's tree and admits his mistake and eventually became the first president of America. The morale of the story is it is not shameful to admit ones mistake, instead, it is required for one to take the courage to admit, and to correct it's mistake and then achieve greater through the experience gained. If one always avoids his responsibility and mistakes, he will keep on repeating the same mistake until eventually it destroys him.
There are many Chinese proverbs and teachings that educates people to accept failure and to step over it anhus achieve a bigger success. 成功的人很少抱怨；抱怨者很少成功。A true successor will complain less and do more; a person who always complain and doesn't work, will be destined as a failure, which I find very true. With the wide accessibility of the blooming social networks, blogs and forums, you will always encounter people ranting, complaining, raging about almost anything in their life. While a moderate rant could be regarded as a proper mental expression, an excessive rant and no action is the total opposite. It just shows how morally degrade someone is by just becoming keyboard warriors and complained about this and that. I suggest a proper counter action is a way more productive method than just blandly write something on your wall or opening a useless thread and inducing anger and negative emotions in other people.
I guess I have written enough to share my thoughts of this matter and I would like to end this entry with a phrase.
"One might be brave to make a decision, but not necessary brave to admit his mistakes."
1. People avoid responsibilities. No one likes to get into troubles, everyone prefers to keep their hands clean while hoping someone else will pick up the pile of shit. Often you will see these scenario in companies or politics where someone (scapegoat) will be used to take the blame/responsibility while the real culprits will get away with their hands clean.
2. The pride and dignity. Admitting to your mistakes is similar to telling people that you failed and you are weak. No one likes to be inferior to another especially in a competitive environment where every step counts.
3. Childish. Some people will point fingers at others as soon as they encounter mistake or failure. These people probably have not grown up and still used to the habit of saying "It's not my fault! I do not know!" and hopefully someone else will clean the mess for them, typically their parents. They usually have no sense of responsibility and their way of solving problems is just by saying the magic word "It's not my fault!" then their fairies (parents/elders) will appear and fix it for them.
4. Selfishness. Together in a team, but some people can just push all their responsibilities to their team mates. Human in general are very selfish, at least from my observation of the people around me. With some element of the first and second factor, selfishness also contributes to the blame game.
5. Sacrifice. Too much effort has been put into a task until the extend where failure is not acceptable. They are not willing to sacrifice all their hard work and effort that will disappear if they have to face the consequence of the mistakes that they made. Commonly you will see this scenario in politics and large co-operations where some people went through a long way before reaching their current position and any slight mistake will bring them back down to ground zero. They cannot afford any mistakes, otherwise everything will perish. And often these will lead to a larger mistake and at the end everything will become unrecoverable.
These factors are the main reasons that I could think of why someone will play the blame game. It takes a lot of courage to admit one's mistake and to learn from it. A famous story that is well known (while some people regarded it as a fake story) which talks about America's first president, George Washington, who chopped down his father's tree and admits his mistake and eventually became the first president of America. The morale of the story is it is not shameful to admit ones mistake, instead, it is required for one to take the courage to admit, and to correct it's mistake and then achieve greater through the experience gained. If one always avoids his responsibility and mistakes, he will keep on repeating the same mistake until eventually it destroys him.
There are many Chinese proverbs and teachings that educates people to accept failure and to step over it anhus achieve a bigger success. 成功的人很少抱怨；抱怨者很少成功。A true successor will complain less and do more; a person who always complain and doesn't work, will be destined as a failure, which I find very true. With the wide accessibility of the blooming social networks, blogs and forums, you will always encounter people ranting, complaining, raging about almost anything in their life. While a moderate rant could be regarded as a proper mental expression, an excessive rant and no action is the total opposite. It just shows how morally degrade someone is by just becoming keyboard warriors and complained about this and that. I suggest a proper counter action is a way more productive method than just blandly write something on your wall or opening a useless thread and inducing anger and negative emotions in other people.
I guess I have written enough to share my thoughts of this matter and I would like to end this entry with a phrase.
"One might be brave to make a decision, but not necessary brave to admit his mistakes."
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